I received a message today from one of my sisters that simply said “This is fucked up”. The message was followed by a screen shot of my 16yo daughter’s Instagram post in which my daughter was talking shit about her recent visit to her aunt’s house. Nothing untrue, but certainly not written for my sister to read. I apologized for having such a bitchy and immoral teenagers. I’ve often told her that our children are totally different despite being raised together and that because of these differences our children should not be made to hang out anymore. I stopped texting and yelled at my daughter for once again disappointing me and making me look like a bad mom. I was truly angry, not because she was expressing herself honestly on her social media, but because she still didn’t have her account set to private.

I know its hard for some people to complete severe ties with family but I think that this is a natural process we must endure to avoid unhealthy relationships. Just because we share DNA does not mean we must put up with their bullshit. If we weren’t related we would never be friends. My family knows nothing about me or my kids because they would never approve of us as we truly are and because of this I find that I have no need for family.

I live in the same general area as my sister but avoid going over because our entire lives are completely different. My sister lives a Mommy Dearest/Martha Stewart/ Bridezilla type life with a picture perfect kid, a beautiful house, and a husband who tries way to hard to please her. I live in a messy house that is undecorated, my kids are truly unruly, and my husband can come off as a narcissistic dick. In short we are completely opposites of eachother.

I guess what I’m trying to say is that I’m tired of getting angry at my kids just because they disappointed someone else.